tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post7692035522350478185..comments2023-10-10T20:15:32.779-07:00Comments on BRAINCHEESE: Like It Or Not, We've ALL Had One...BRAINCHEESEhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04478852688645497036noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-23520549395484203282007-06-19T20:47:00.000-07:002007-06-19T20:47:00.000-07:00HAVE MYELIN:Yep, there are some good daddies out t...HAVE MYELIN:<BR/><BR/>Yep, there are some good daddies out there...my favorite are those candied kind called, "Sugar Daddy's". LOL<BR/><BR/>LDBRAINCHEESEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04478852688645497036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-81793393040615071602007-06-19T08:43:00.000-07:002007-06-19T08:43:00.000-07:00My father was one of those "old school fathers". S...My father was one of those "old school fathers". Seldom heard from, but seen. Now he's dying and I'm saddened by the knowledge I don't really know him. <BR/><BR/>I'm delighted to see men such as mdmhvonpa step up and be <I>real daddies</I>. Makes me wonder what my father would have been like had he the courage to be different.Have Myelin?https://www.blogger.com/profile/15180457748501693989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-54656324539886864372007-06-18T21:05:00.000-07:002007-06-18T21:05:00.000-07:00MERELYME:I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of yo...MERELYME:<BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your father and at such a young age...I can understand your "dislike" of father's day knowing this.<BR/><BR/>I, too, don't have a great "liking" for the day...but I also know many WONDERFUL fathers who deserve a day of celebration, so I usually just think of them on this particular day.<BR/><BR/>LDBRAINCHEESEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04478852688645497036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-78803863869705274302007-06-18T18:26:00.000-07:002007-06-18T18:26:00.000-07:00I really like that quote. I really dislike Father...I really like that quote. I really dislike Father's Day as I lost my father when I was very young...only four years old. Sounds like you have really come to terms with the relationship you had with your dad. It must feel good to feel at peace.Synchronicityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07631238942909923311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-79323750681483919062007-06-18T14:55:00.000-07:002007-06-18T14:55:00.000-07:00HARKOO/JOYCE:Unfortunately (or fortunately), it se...HARKOO/JOYCE:<BR/><BR/>Unfortunately (or fortunately), it seems much easier to make peace with the dead...there is no one around to dispute your memory or your feelings!<BR/><BR/>I know you have had quite the year of dealing with your father...I hope it has gotten easier for both you and your sisters. And if not easier, maybe more tolerable. <BR/><BR/>LDBRAINCHEESEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04478852688645497036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-27986270442000093372007-06-18T14:53:00.000-07:002007-06-18T14:53:00.000-07:00MDMHVONPA:Three generations of "MDMHVONPA'S"?!?! ...MDMHVONPA:<BR/><BR/>Three generations of "MDMHVONPA'S"?!?! Gathered together?!? Now I AM afraid...LOL<BR/><BR/>(Glad you had a great time and wonderful memory to store in your bank)<BR/><BR/>LDBRAINCHEESEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04478852688645497036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-34310669243680735822007-06-18T14:52:00.000-07:002007-06-18T14:52:00.000-07:00STEVE:That is the SWEETEST gift and story!!! Soun...STEVE:<BR/><BR/>That is the SWEETEST gift and story!!! Sounds as if you had a most excellent father's day as well as having a wonderful kiddo...but DO keep us all posted next year whether that trophy is awarded again. LOL<BR/><BR/>LDBRAINCHEESEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04478852688645497036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-67989526128297099152007-06-18T14:50:00.000-07:002007-06-18T14:50:00.000-07:00PEEJ:You "miss him" because no matter what our par...PEEJ:<BR/><BR/>You "miss him" because no matter what our parents did or didn't do, there is a genetic and energetic encoding in our very beings that says, "I am of that person". That doesn't mean we have to be "of that person's behaviors" as we grow up, however...but cellulary (is that even a word?!?) speaking, they are a part of our history. <BR/><BR/>LDBRAINCHEESEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04478852688645497036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-86890436920825837442007-06-18T14:47:00.000-07:002007-06-18T14:47:00.000-07:00ADINA:Should I go camp out now in front of the loc...ADINA:<BR/><BR/>Should I go camp out now in front of the local bookstore and await the arrival of your published memoirs!?!? Because I DO think there are some stories in you I would find most entertaining and fascinating...<BR/><BR/>You crack me up...LOL<BR/><BR/>LDBRAINCHEESEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04478852688645497036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-30834698819407194992007-06-18T14:45:00.000-07:002007-06-18T14:45:00.000-07:00ROJOO:It seems escaping any childhood without "sto...ROJOO:<BR/><BR/>It seems escaping any childhood without "stories" is quite the rare occasion these days...but, regardless of YOUR stories, I must say you've grown into a fine man and father. And I HAVE seen you with your boys, so there! LOL<BR/><BR/>LDBRAINCHEESEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04478852688645497036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-4030732211526477482007-06-18T09:07:00.000-07:002007-06-18T09:07:00.000-07:00I have given it day to think about your posting an...I have given it day to think about your posting and have decided the Father issue is too loaded for me to comment on. My dad is a sadistic malignant narcissist (i never can figure out how to spell that) and people think i should write a book about my relationship with him He is still alive so i will wait to see how it ends! I am glad you have reached some sort of peace with your dad Linda. I am still trying to process the damage. I can at least lay down boundaries now and distance myself.harkoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12055820464289576902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-86116898487133974852007-06-18T07:18:00.000-07:002007-06-18T07:18:00.000-07:00This weekend, my father, myself and the kids spent...This weekend, my father, myself and the kids spent a bunch of time together ... it was fantastic. Happy times are more memorable for us these days.mdmhvonpahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319386081400881905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-6728482140404894962007-06-18T07:10:00.000-07:002007-06-18T07:10:00.000-07:00My 10 year old daughter crafted a hand made trophy...My 10 year old daughter crafted a hand made trophy for me proclaiming me the "best dad ever - 2007". I thought that was very clever. By giving me the trophy, she gave me a warm fuzzy and told me how much she likes me. By adding the year 2007, she made it clear that the trophy was competitive... next year, I might not win. :) Incentive to keep working.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10085160494038535606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-3460710198871203622007-06-18T05:35:00.000-07:002007-06-18T05:35:00.000-07:00I tried to let this one slide by without comment b...I tried to let this one slide by without comment but hours after I read it, the words were still bouncing around in my head. Thankyou for being strong enough to discuss your Dad. Having had my own interesting adventures with both parents I know how difficult it can be to try and explain them to others... especially when you're not sure you truly understood them yourself!<BR/><BR/>This is the first year without my own Dad. My husband and I were talking about him just yesterday and I've decided that I miss the father he could have been rather than who he actually was... <BR/><BR/>Your Dad and mine were different. Yours wanted a son while mine didn't want ANY kids and made us painfully (for many years I mean that quite literally) aware of this fact every day of our lives. You would think that after 3 kids he would decide to make the best of a bad situation but you'd be wrong. <BR/><BR/>I don't understand why I miss him... I must be insane. :)Peejhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06347463380333030626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-30465374649851984362007-06-18T03:54:00.000-07:002007-06-18T03:54:00.000-07:00Father’s day is the day when I feel the most guilt...Father’s day is the day when I feel the most guilty for all the stupid things I have done in my youth and my father ended up paying for, one way or another ….My years of rebellion , looking back now , should have left my father dry and bitter towards me but instead he smiles content and I guess avenged , at my struggles with my own son (who’s 18 !!!) . Circle of life , I guess ….LOL!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38895750.post-82296481148524472902007-06-17T23:39:00.000-07:002007-06-17T23:39:00.000-07:00Hey, L. Your entry today brings up a lot of feelin...Hey, L. Your entry today brings up a lot of feelings. My own dad was a hard-ass, too. If you've ever seen the movie, "The Great Santini," that captures much of my dad's spirit: a Navy pilot in World War II, he was confident, demanding, smart, tough, implacable. He had a secret ambition to be a writer and never hesitated to buy books for me. However, I don't remember much that was tender about him. His approach to swimming instruction was to throw you off the dock. His discipline always had the implicit threat of violence behind it. I don't remember much of that myself but saw it in action against my younger brothers. <BR/><BR/>He died in a weird drowning accident when I was 17 and my youngest brother was only a year old. I was angry at him then but, over the years and especially after becoming a father myself, I've reached an understanding with him, and his spirit. I appreciate the stability of our lives, and his consistency, even though he worked long hours and was exhausted when he came home. I realize that he cared about us even though showing it wasn't his strong suit. I know that many of my fears originated in my interactions with him, but they're balanced by the strengths I learned as well. <BR/><BR/>I've tried in many ways to be a different kind of father myself. I never want our boys to doubt that I love them absolutely and unconditionally. And yet there are times when I have to say, "no," and have to set limits, that I know I get the strength for doing so from my dad. <BR/><BR/>I would have been delighted to have had girls, and know from my two brothers who have two girls apiece that they were never sorry they didn't have boys. So from my experience, I don't believe that having boys is a universal preference for men. <BR/><BR/>You deserved, just as all kids do, to have a father who loved you completely, and without reservations. I appreciate your ability to see what you did get from that flawed man who was recruited for the role of your dad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com